The Master / Mistress / Owner Voice of Master PrincePunk on Master/slave
“When they obey without complaint, when they choose devotion over ease, something electrical runs through me. But this isn't cruelty for its own sake. I sense their struggles before they speak them, adjust demands to their limits, guide them toward becoming better versions of themselves. Responsibility and arousal are the same thing for me.”
I became a Master at a fairly young age for the time. I was 24 years old and it is now 30 years ago. Back then, Masters were usually older men who were also into leather fetish. I was a punk leather man and I was practicing BDSM relationships with much older men. I started my Master/slave relationships with men I would meet on a monthly basis. It was established by email or written contract that as the Master, I have control on everything. With some slaves I was controlling everything, from the financial aspect of their lives to the day I would let them release themselves. At times, we could be at a leather bar both wearing leather uniforms, and to some we looked like two Masters, but in reality my slaves knew their places and always assumed their positions as inferior to Me. Today, I'm the older of the relationships and my slaves tend to be in their late 20's to 30's. Because of the internet and the large access to bdsm films and amateur films, young slaves are extremely knowledgeable and are in most occasions aware of the commitment to be in the relationship. As a Master I commit to play with my slave according to its experience, its fantasies, its limits and to explore the limits that can be pushed. The expectations for my slaves are to serve and please me. Satisfy me and obey me should be their priorities. Knowing that all time a slave is inferior to me and should be in a position to serve.
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Very soon I knew that I would be exclusively a Top in my relationships as I couldn't take pleasure in serving another man. I knew that by nature I like to order people around, I always got turned on by people obeying my directives and orders. So even before I was officially a Master, I was an extremely Bossy and verbal top that subs enjoyed serving. Wearing leather has been a part of my sexuality since my early 20's and motivated the position of powerful man. As I was wearing leather with all my partners, a slave gave me the title and once I was called Master, I realized that I was liking that word and it made me feel even more powerful and turned on. When I hear a sub calling me Master and answering to me by : "Yes Master!" I get into a power trip instantly.
By nature I am very dominant and being in a Master/slave relationship confirms my natural incline to be dominant. The fact that a person submits to me as a slave and accepts to serve me, is exciting, it makes me feel powerful. I get aroused knowing that a person will follow instructions and do anything in their power to please me. It's not about sucking me off and making me cum, though I enjoy that too, it's the fact that they will do what I ask them to without complains and with devotion that turns me own. The fact that I will make decisions for both, in sessions and in life is as natural and exciting to me as forcing a slave to push its limits to satisfy me.
A Master/slave relationships makes me responsible for the two of us, it empowers me and brings me to a position of ultimate power. I will have the last word and I take pleasure in having it. But I expect my slave to be intelligent and educated. I like to be consulted for financial decisions, and any decisions life related. Though my slave does not have to live with me 24/7, they must serve me at all times. their lives are dedicated to me and that is what empowers me the most. To know that wherever they are, they are working and dedicating their lives to me makes me feel strong and superior.
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My relationship with a slave begins with a simple rule of communication at all times. A slave might be more experienced in this type of relationship than another, and perhaps will like to be objectified a lot. It doesn't mean that its state of mind will allow him to be 100% ready at all times, so I like to remind my slave that they should and must communicate anything that concerns the relationship to me. If that day the slave is not ready to be objectified, I would like to know it so I may lead it to be ready. As a ritual, I like to be spoken in a very formal way, especially in French as it immediately sets up the tone. Being called Sir or Master lets me know that the slave is mentally in the right state of mind and is often a proof of commitment to serve me. If a slave is away or lives in a different city, I like to have a daily message and some rituals to be executed for me and sent through pictures and videos. It keeps the relationship exciting and procures a sense of connection between the Master and the slave.
In my relationships I do like when the slave wears my collar and lock, a chastity device as a sign of devotion to me, and simple protocols such as the way they must address me through messages and over the phone, but face to face as well. In a public situation I like the slave to assist me with everything from opening a door to carrying bags, getting me a drink, anything that will make my life easier. At a fetish event, I enjoy having a slave kneeling when I'm not using it. Walking a slave in a leash through an event, I will meet a lot of people I know, friends and other slaves of mine, and the slave should not expect to be a part of the conversation unless I decide so and introduce it to other people. I like my slave to get me a drink and ask permission to get its drink as well. Feeding and drinking off a bowl is something I practice with the more experienced slave. My slave should be ready to serve as an object, whether it is a chair, and ashtray, a coat hanger, it must be ready at all times to act as needed. These are some of the protocols I like to install at the beginning of the relationship, and gradually add to them. Marking the flesh of my slave with a tattoo or branding is a huge turn on for me, but I only do this rarely and with the really long term slaves I have. But I like to assign collars to my slaves, and make them wear something that comes from me, it is a sign of ownership that both the slave and me enjoy. Any protocol in place will reinforce the relationship and the feeling of ownership and exchange. Even if the slave is allowed to see and serve other persons, the slave is owned by me and should ask me first if it can serve someone else and make sure the other person knows I own it.
Establishing protocols strengthen the bond between myself and the slave. From a collar to a chastity cage its a reminder that the slave has submitted its life to a superior man and that he must behave as the property of its Master. When my slaves wear a collar that comes from me, I see a sense of pride among the community. My slave often talk to each other and compare things with each other. When my slaves meet other subs, I can see and hear how much pride it brings them to be owned. To wear a chastity device for me, a collar for me, it is rewarding for me as well to see them proud and happy.
I keep an open mind at all time and since I have been doing this for a long time, I sense the discomfort quite fast and I am able to start a conversation and I usually make my slaves confident enough to communicate their problems. Over the years, I had many slaves and when I feel that they are ready to move on, I usually am the one instigating the separation. But I have remained in great terms with all my slaves. I even have encouraged them to develop their new relationship or their new positions. In terms of my authority, it is never questioned, as I am a very bossy person. With most of my slaves, I share moments that appears to be friendly and equal, but in reality, the slave wears a chastity device or/and a collar, locked, and I have the key. My authority remains intact, even if we are watching a movie or eating together at a restaurant.
As a Dom/Top man, consenting to have sex with any gender, I will not have children to care for by choice. Owning slaves and having the responsibility to train them, use them, abuse them and care for them, I feel like I am building an army of stronger individuals that not only will make great workers and servants, but will enhance the world their live in, just to make me feel proud.
Having a slave 24/7 would be an adjustment, but I would love to have one that lived in a house adjacent to mine and that could serve me at all times. It would be important for me to keep my space preserved, as I enjoy my own space and my personal habits. A way to call the slave and have it where I need it right away and ready to serve. Many slaves serving me at the same time is my biggest fantasy not yet completely fulfilled. I did have several slaves at the same time, but not for a long period of time. I could picture myself resting my boots on a slave object, with a slave ashtray on the side. Another slave polishing my boots and giving me some pleasure. another waiting to be punished, restrained and chained on the wall. another cooking, cleaning... That would be a scenario that I would enjoy very much. Seeing slaves living for me and serving me at all times.
